From Sweet to Bitter: Identifying the Most Common Toxic Relationship Signs
It’s possible to find a soul mate and live happily ever after. Unfortunately, what starts out with so much promise has the potential to turn into a connection that does anything but make life worth living. There are signs that indicate the relationship is not turning out to be everything that it was intended to be. So how is it possible to become aware of those signs and decide if the relationship is worth salvaging or if it’s time to move on? Here are some examples of toxic relationship signs that every person should know.
The Mutual Support is Ebbing
In a healthy relationship, partners seek to support one another. Whether it has to be with meeting a personal goal, coming up with a solution for a troubling problem, or making a job change, there is no doubt that the other person will be there to listen, discuss, and in general do what it takes to help the partner arrive at a decision that feels right.
When a partner begins to be dismissive or casual about things that are truly troubling the other party, something is up. It’s one thing to have no real preference about where to have dinner tonight. Having that same attitude about a potentially life-changing event is another matter entirely. When the support is not there, it’s time for counseling or maybe ending the relationship.
Playing the Blame Game
Strong relationships do require that each partner own whatever mistakes they make. Since humans make them regularly, it helps to be able to go to the other party and admit the error and talk about how to make things right or otherwise overcome the situation. When a partner blames the other for everything that’s wrong and is not willing to accept any responsibility for their own choices, that’s a sure sign the relationship has become toxic. Now is the time to do something before it becomes easy to believe everything that’s wrong is truly the fault of only one person.
There are other signs to be considered, up to and including verbal and physical abuse followed by expressions of regret. Don’t downplay these signs or think they will go away on their own. Take a hard look at what’s happening, assess the willingness of the partner to work on the relationship, and prepare to move on if that is the only logical solution.